What Your Sleeping Habits Say About Your Relationship
1. The Spoon
This is the most common position of all couples. According to psychiatrist Samuel Dunkell, “When a woman assumes the posterior position, it may indicate she is the more giving partner or that he needs special nurturing.” This position provides close contact with your partner, ensuring physically closeness. Shirley P. Glass, psychologist and martial therapist said It’s not necessarily erotic, instead, it’s “a comforting, safe cocoon.”
2. The Honeymoon Hug
This position is most common in periods with intense feelings. Mostly after lovemaking or the beginning of a relationship. According to Elizabeth Flynn Campbell, a New York psychotherapist, “the couple could be overly enmeshed, too dependent on each other to sleep apart.”
3. Like Shingles (on a Roof)
According to Samuel Dunkell this position denotes strong egos and a sense of entitlement. Normally, one partner is laying on their back while the other rests their head on the person’s shoulder, making him or her a dependent, compliant partner. Shirley P. Glass notes “there’s a high level of trust here.”
4. The Sweetheart’s Cradle
Intimate version of the above, The Sweetheart’s Cradle has one person holding the other instead of having a head simply anchored on a shoulder. What you end up with is a very caring, nurturing, intimate position, creating a sense of protection and safeness.
5. Loosely Tethered
As time goes on, though, people take this position, which is similar to The Spoon but with more distance. It signifies trust, allowing for more space and comfort without sacrificing affection. This position represents balance between the couple.
6. The Leg Hug
This position represent two things.
1. The couple isn’t entirely comfortable showing physical affection, so it comes off as it “accidentally” happens, like a foot touched another one.
2. Complete opposite of the above. It could suggest familiarity and comfort.
7. The Pursuit
In this sleeping position one person chases the other like someone retreats to the other side of the bed with their back turned to you. The Pursuit is when you approach that person and spoon them. It can mean two things.
- According to Samuel Dunkell, can be labelled as “illegal Spooning” because the person retreats and wants their space.
- The person who distancing themselves wants to be pursued and looks like a game of cat and mouse.
Knowing which one you should do can be difficult, but that’s part of being in a relationship.
8. Zen Style
This sleeping position is common for the couples that have been together for quite sometime. As time goes on things will change here especially since closeness is established and not as exploratory. The Zen is a compromise between connectedness and independence, creating physical contact without clinging.
9. The Cliffhanger
This position is a lot like The Pursuit, but this time there’s no chase, as the other person doesn’t wait for it. It’s basically like a “cliffhanger”: you’re left wondering what’s happening. You’ll begin to wonder whether there’s something going wrong, why the person is withdrawing: Anger? Sadness? Resentment? This is when you have to analyze your significant other and see if that person really needs their space. Over time, they’ll roll back.
10. The Crab
This sleeping position have multiple meanings. If you’re currently have some disagreements, this may be your or your partner’s way of signifying that there are problems, creating a need and a way of pulling away from each other without acknowledging it. It could also mean that you’re hurting. Just like how you change positions when you’re sitting, you create new positions when you’re in bed. Or, really, you or your partner could be creative sleepers.